Here are a few not-so-simple, but effective, ways to give yourself the gift of weight management this holiday season:
Most importantly, set a personal goal to learn about and practice self-compassion. Research shows that after indulging in food those who are nice to themselves rather than punitive will actually manage their weight much better. We tend to think that punishing ourselves eating too much or eating the “bad” foods will help correct the problem, but it is actually the opposite. If you are kind to yourself, you will be more successful. Think about it outside the context of food. When a friend comes to you with a really difficult problem or situation, do you yell at her? Do you punish her for being bad? Are you cruel to her? No, of course not. You would be really compassionate, kind, concerned, caring and supportive. Right? So, why are we so incredibly hurtful and nasty to ourselves?
I simply ask you to try building self-compassion and self-kindness this holiday season. I have used it in my own life and it has drastically changed my life and eating habits. It continues to be a work in progress, but I have noticed remarkable differences in the ways I relate to food, especially around this time of year.
For more information on this topic, please read this article regarding the research: http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/02/28/go-easy-on-yourself-a-new-wave-of-research-urges/
Set daily or weekly personal intentions and write them down. I was skeptical of this at first, but it is amazing what changes when you write things down. I have tried this both by mentally setting my intentions without the process of writing, but it just isn’t the same. I notice a significant difference when writing down my intentions, even when quickly scribbled. Here are a few examples of practical personal intentions I have set:
1 – Eat less processed foods and fill up on more natural fruits and vegetables daily. Notice if/when I feel differently when eating different types of foods.
2 – Exercise at the gym for at least 30 minutes per day, at least 3 days per week.
3 – Do yoga for at least 20 minutes each, at least 2 times this week.
4 – Meditate for at least 10 minutes per day, at least 4 days this week.
You get the idea. Try this out for yourself and notice if you find it to be useful.
Start a meditation program that is realistic for you. It has been studied that meditating is an effective weight management tool. We often eat because we are anxious, depressed, bored or because of another unconscious emotional trigger. Meditating helps you connect to your body more fully, helping you hear and understand your body’s cues for hunger and satiation. It also puts you more in touch with your inner emotional world, rather than using food to distract yourself from these emotions. It does not have to be a painful and exhausting journey at all. Giving some attention where attention is due and honoring your emotions can be liberating and give you more energy. Think of how much energy it must take for you to hold back all those emotions that you are trying not to feel.
Meditation does not have to be hours and hours of sitting in silence. Believe me, I would not have lasted long if that were the case. Set short and attainable goals for yourself at first, such as 2-minutes per day or 5-minutes. Start with something you will definitely achieve and then add from there. I set a goal of 10-mintues per day and then often go over because it feels so good. But, there are days when all I can manage is 10 minutes, so I still achieve my goal. You might want to try guided meditations from people like Tara Brach, Sharon Salzberg, or Jack Kornfield.
Good luck and be kind this holiday season!
If you would like more information on self-compassion, please read my blog at https://kimberlyatwood.wordpress.com/2012/08/28/self-compassion/
If you would like more information on meditation, please ready my blog at
https://kimberlyatwood.wordpress.com/2012/10/04/meditation-myths/
Kimberly Atwood is a psychotherapist in private practice in Doylestown, Pennsylvania. She specializes in working with men and women in their late teens, 20’s and 30’s dealing with eating disorders, sexual and relationship issues, anxiety, life transitions and personal growth. For more information, please visit www.KimberlyAtwood.com